Sorority Recruitment: Is it a Flawed System?

Letter to the Editor

By Anonymous

Record numbers of women turned out for Formal Sorority Recruitment this past weekend, and while the sisterly love that resulted is a beautiful thing, a trail of broken hearts and dashed hopes were left behind.

Last year I observed the recruitment process as a third party, I only knew what my friends told me and I asked them questions because I was genuinely interested but too timid to try. From what I could understand, it seemed like a great system. You got to meet everyone and have the opportunity to be considered by everyone. This year I really put myself out there and I even went to a lot of the sorority recruitment events in the fall to meet people. I had met so many great girls and thought I was making connections with people. I would walk into the library or Regattas and these girls I wanted to call my sisters would know my name and say hello.

Unfortunately for me, all of the time and effort just went to waste because I was notified I was not asked back Saturday morning. Now, I am not as disappointed about not making past the first cut, as I am upset about the entire recruitment process as a whole. And don’t get me wrong, I was bawling all Saturday morning- I had really wanted to be a part of something special. I came to the realization however that no one prepared us not to make it.

At the very beginning of Formal Recruitment you walk up to the Ballroom and you are given a recruitment T-shirt that you will wear on Sunday before you run to your new sisters, where you will be given your bid day shirt. The idea that not everyone makes it is avoided, and it is not brought up unless you ask about it. Everyone says, “When you get in” not, “if you get in”. The entire process not only creates a sense of false hope, it is exhausting. Albeit vulgar, the best way I can describe it is as a psychological clusterfuck.

You wait in lines to anywhere from 5-15 minutes; time where you wait in nervous anticipation racking your brain for ‘cool’ things to say when in reality you will say what your major is more times than you can count in a room filled way past the appropriate capacity. You not only have to speak loudly enough to be heard properly, but also have to try and think intelligently in a room where the noise is worse than standing right next to an amp at a rock concert. And then you have to worry about whether or not the sister you are talking to really wants you to meet as many people as possible, or she just wants to pass you off on someone else. The past few days when I see a sister I spoke with it has been like we never met, or worse they see me and quickly look in the other direction. I hold no hostility towards them personally, I am mad at the system. There is no way and entire group of people can get to know someone by talking to them superficially for three minutes.

Personally I think Formal Recruitment needs to go through some changes. It might be better for it to become more like the Fraternity rush where you just go and hang out with people, there might be less pressure that way. Also with so many girls coming out, perhaps it is time for some new sororities to be added to the campus, five just doesn’t seem like enough.

Maybe I wasn’t meant to be in a sorority, but I feel badly for all of the other girls who also didn’t make it. I might not be what sororities are looking for, but I have had the pleasure of knowing and meeting some amazing women whose enthusiasm, beauty, and sparkling personalities were overlooked or not appreciated.


7 comments

  1. Anonymous

    It is unfortunate that the Greek system fails those who really want in – and that's because of course, the system isn't perfect. However, don't blame the entire Greek system for this misfortune. It's an exhausting process for both sides: girls interested in joining have to wait in line for 5-15 minutes anxiously, while sisters stand on the other side of the door waiting to talk to 100+ girls in one day and to show them all the hard work they've done for the last couple of months. I hate to hear that all you heard was "if you get ins," that shouldn't have happened because that's considered "Bid Promising" and sororities can't do that – for the sole reason you complained about: they can not let someone think they are definitely getting in, when there is no way of knowing that yet. But on the bright side, I think you have handled this situation exceptionally well, and that is very admirable. Like some other commentators have posted, don't get too discouraged by this one set back, CNU offers a lot of other great organizations to be a part of.

  2. Anon

    So let me get this straight. You are upset because you failed to get invited to pay hundreds of dollars for an increase in friends on Facebook? These articles are making me lose faith in the CNU Captain's Log.

    • Anonymous

      Do not take this out on the Captain's Log. This is a letter to the editor. They are simply publishing it like a good paper should. Whether a paper agrees with letters or not they still publish them. That's all the Captain's Log was doing here.

      Chat with the person who wrote this, they're the one that you need to take this situation up with.

  3. Anonymous

    The new Release Figures Methodology ("RFM") was developed by NPC women with the first year of implementation and testing being in 2004.

    The purpose behind the RFM is threefold:

    1. To enable each sorority to invite a sufficient number of PNMs to each event in order to attain Quota at the conclusion of Fully or Partially Structured Recruitment. Quota is a number representing an equal allocation of the PNM pool;

    2. To allow each PNM to methodically investigate available options and ultimately to match with a sorority for which she has a preference; and

    3. TO MAZIMIZE THE NUMBER OF PNMS THAT ULTIMATELY AFFILIATES WITH A SORORITY THROUGH FSR OR PSR.

  4. anonymous

    From an alumni perspective, I just want to re-assure you that it's not for everyone. I reflect on college and wonder if I should have ever made the move to join. However, I got involved with several other organizations on campus and found my niche. I also developed a lot of leadership and work experience in the meantime, which strengthened me personally and has propelled me into a great career. A majority of my girlfriends were in sororities and I loved them all, sometimes I lament on my choice. But again, it's not for everyone; CNU has so much to offer, do not be discouraged by one set back!

  5. CNU student

    I feel your pain-I also went through formal recruitment this year for the second time and left disappointed. I ended up only asked back by one sorority out of three for Saturday, and, just like the previous year, was not asked back for Sunday Preference. I'm extremely happy for all the girls who did get bids, but I am a little bummed that sororities couldn't see enough in me to give me a bid. I also have nothing against the girls in sororities, it's just a flawed system and I don't know how much control the sororities themselves have over that. Sometimes Greek life isn't for everyone (I've seen Louboutins less expensive than Phi Mu's new member period), and I probably am not meant for being in a sorority, but it still stinks that some fantastic women were overlooked by Greek life.

  6. Anonymous

    I believe that the Formal Recruitment process is a very organized system and is built the best way possible. At other schools, sorority recruitment is much more cut-throat. I do agree maybe we need more chapters on campus, and while I am sorry you did not find a home, do understand that there are many other organizations to be active in on campus, and also I'm sure the girls you met during the recruitment process enjoyed meeting you.