I’m sure some of you only have to be alone in a room with your significant other to feel the need to breed. However, just keep in mind anticipation and warming up your engines before starting the race can make the time with your partner a sexual experience, and not just that time you had sex. Unlike NASCAR, no one ever bragged that they finished fastest in the bedroom.
First you need to pick the tone you want to set. Do you want to be romantic, fun or kinky? Is this an important night like a birthday or anniversary, or do you just want to try something new?
When it comes to setting the romantic tone, classic yet cliché, usually there is a candle light dinner and rose petals leading into the bedroom with smooth instrumental music playing in the background. It’s sweet and sensual while still saying “we’re gonna do it”. However, if you want to be romantic, but not predictable, it’ll take some special thoughtfulness on your part. Make a date involving their favorite things. If their favorite food is Chinese, and they have a thing for singer-songwriters, make a spontaneous picnic in the living room with some Asian Grille and a Jason Mraz Pandora Station playing. Then head back to the bedroom for “dessert.”
Being goofy definitely has a place in the bedroom. If you can’t laugh at yourself or take a joke when trying new things (which may or may not work) your life will be more difficult. If you want your partner to get in a fun and frisky mood, try setting up clues or a scavenger hunt that leads them to the bedroom but not before they’ve gathered up items you’ll be using together behind closed doors. A little imagination and items from your fridge and stuff sitting around the apartment can make for a fun frolic between the sheets.
When it comes to getting kinky in the bedroom, it’s really important to discuss what is and isn’t okay to do with your partner. When getting adventurous and trying new things, it’s super important to trust the person you are with and talk about boundaries. That being said, could you imagine your significant other coming home to find an array of adult toys placed strategically around the apartment marking your intended places to “experiment”? Perhaps you want to start slower and organize a little role play that ends in a pair of fuzzy handcuffs.
No matter how you decide to get in the mood, always make sure to take your partner into consideration because two “O’s” are better than one!