I’m sure some of you only have to be alone in a room with your significant other to feel the need to breed. However, just keep in mind anticipation and warming up your engines before starting the race can make the time with your partner a sexual experience, and not just that time you had sex. Unlike NASCAR, no one ever bragged that they finished fastest in the bedroom.
First you need to pick the tone you want to set. Do you want to be romantic, fun or kinky? Is this an important night like a birthday or anniversary, or do you just want to try something new?
When it comes to setting the romantic tone, classic yet cliché, usually there is a candle light dinner and rose petals leading into the bedroom with smooth instrumental music playing in the background. It’s sweet and sensual while still saying “we’re gonna do it”. However, if you want to be romantic, but not predictable, it’ll take some special thoughtfulness on your part. Make a date involving their favorite things. If their favorite food is Chinese, and they have a thing for singer-songwriters, make a spontaneous picnic in the living room with some Asian Grille and a Jason Mraz Pandora Station playing. Then head back to the bedroom for “dessert.”
Being goofy definitely has a place in the bedroom. If you can’t laugh at yourself or take a joke when trying new things (which may or may not work) your life will be more difficult. If you want your partner to get in a fun and frisky mood, try setting up clues or a scavenger hunt that leads them to the bedroom but not before they’ve gathered up items you’ll be using together behind closed doors. A little imagination and items from your fridge and stuff sitting around the apartment can make for a fun frolic between the sheets.
When it comes to getting kinky in the bedroom, it’s really important to discuss what is and isn’t okay to do with your partner. When getting adventurous and trying new things, it’s super important to trust the person you are with and talk about boundaries. That being said, could you imagine your significant other coming home to find an array of adult toys placed strategically around the apartment marking your intended places to “experiment”? Perhaps you want to start slower and organize a little role play that ends in a pair of fuzzy handcuffs.
No matter how you decide to get in the mood, always make sure to take your partner into consideration because two “O’s” are better than one!
Keep doing what you do, Girl Next Door! I'm glad that in this day and age women can openly express their sexuality and assert their right to enjoyment of sex, rather than be repressed by someone else's view of what is 'right' or 'moral.' We define ourselves, and I think it's perfect that way.
I feel sorry for you. Obviously your columns are a cry for help, The love you seek will never be found "under the sheets", but through the One who created you and is madly in love with you. You deny Him, and use sex to fill the void. I will be praying for you to appreciate the gift of womanhood which cannot be isolated from your soul. All who, by their silence, read this column and say nothing to help you are guilty as well. A war on women is indeed being waged. First, by the women who sell themselves short, thinking a romp in bed, (no matter how much Victoria's secret paraphernalia they buy) will bring joy. And secondly, by men who run their lives below the belt, instead of their hearts and heads. By the way- I think the faculty advisor to this publication is asleep at his post, and should be ashamed . Adult men should be wise and protective of young women.
I feel sorry for you. Obviously your columns are a cry for help, The love you seek will never be found "under the sheets", but through the One who created you and is madly in love with you. You deny Him, and use sex to fill the void. I will be praying for you to appreciate the gift of womanhood which cannot be isolated from your soul. All who, by their silence, read this column and say nothing to help you are guilty as well. A war on women is indeed being waged. First, by the women who sell themselves short, thinking a romp in bed, (no matter how much Victoria's secret paraphernalia they buy) will bring joy. And secondly, by men who run their lives below the belt, instead of their hearts and heads. By the way- I think the faculty advisor to this publication is asleep at his post, and should be ashamed . Adult men should be wise and protective of young women.
God bless you